BY REMY S. RABOR
I believe letter-writing is an effective means of communication to get to know a person … This I learned from my 10 years of letter-writing with Fr. Noel Gartlan, C.S.s.R.
Fr. Noel does not like writing a”personal” letter but he likes receiving them. Since I’m fond of writing, so he gives his response whenever he has time.
Fr. Noel was a person full of love. He was called to incarnate God’s unconditional love in whatever circumstances he was placed. He expressed God’s love in his work in Tacloban and also in Davao with the seminarians, and in Iligan, and in the people he met.
In all his letters to me he always begins with; “My dear dear Remy“… In almost every letter, he always says “one friendship progress“, because we can say what we feel, without any fear of being judged or fear that the other would be taken aback by what we say. Our relationship, me being his “little sister” and him my “big brother” is what we liked very much and one we both like to remain. If he has been able to enter into my sufferings and sorrows, trials & challenges in my life a bit, it is because he comes for me somewhat more than ordinary pastoral care.


Whenever he writes about his love and concern for me, he always emphasizes that he hoped his words could never be misconstrued by Rey as anything but showing the highest concern for me as a married person and for my marriage, for it is great concern for him that my marriage be a success and that Rey and I grow in the deepest possible love together & anything he can do to help that along, is what he feels he should do for a “little sister”.
“Happiness is the result of trying to do something else besides trying to be happy. Maybe, the worst way to attain happiness is to work with set purpose to be happy. The harder one tries, the more elusive is the fruit desired. The butterfly does not come to the one who tries to catch it. Joy comes from being in tune with life around. The butterfly enjoys being fully a butterfly in full freedom, than captured in our hands. We must try to be at peace with the cosmos, to be in tune, in harmony.”
It makes him happy when I tell him what I have been doing especially in my marriage because he grows too in this mystery of love as the year goes on.
Fr. Noel always expressed his gratitude whenever he received my letters, or birthday gifts or phone calls. He expressed his thanks by telling me: “Silly little sister!” and added, “Thank you”, for showing him something of my love for him, and helped him too to know more clearly of his love for me.
I cannot forget what Fr. Noel said,” Touch the good earth every day. It’s Friendly. It’s from where we came and to where we return.”
Fr. Noel always said he has so much to thank me for. I too felt the same and happy too, whenever he shares anything that comes to his mind. It is because we are special friends we can say anything to one another.
Fr. Noel always emphasized on God’s love. Jesus is the human expression of God’s love. We are called to a relationship of love with God, in the person of Christ. Once the relationship is right, all else is right. What I do is very secondary to whom I AM in relationship with Christ.
In one of his letters, Fr. Noel shared that he was an instrument of God’s love. A woman he met along the small chapel asked if she could take some of his time. There was somehow an understanding between them and they sat in the chapel for about 30 minutes. She poured out her heart to him. Because the nature of the problem she presented they had to share on love. Giving her some of his love, he could feel she was responding. He knew they were both the better for the encounter. With a misty eye of gratitude, she asked his name. It was only 30 minutes, but in that short time, he felt he knows her heart and she, his. He knew he met Christ. Isn’t it a great mystery? This is his little reflection for me in his letter.

In every ending of Fr. Noel’s letter, he always says that in his prayer each morning, he speaks my name to God and prays that I will know His love for me and that his own way be a little of the same sort.
Fr. Noel is one person whom I consider a part of my life. In his own unique way, he has shown me the human love of Jesus for me.
Fr. Noel’s and my letter-writing relationship will always be printed in my heart and mind all years till I depart. I praise God for the gift of Fr. Noel in my life and those whom he also encountered.
May God have mercy on Fr. Noel Gartlan, CSsR. May the Lod grant him eternal rest. AMEN.










