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  • PARENTING 101

    PARENTING 101

    December 29, 2024 – Feast of the Holy Family

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    In every Wednesday novena to Our Mother of Perpetual Help, one intention we pray is that we may learn to adapt to our growing children. Parenthood, as we all know, is not only about raising children but also adjusting to our growing children. Thus to parent a child is more than just caring for the growth of the children; it is also adjusting and learning in the process, as children grow in maturity and age.

    As Redemptorist missionary involved in parish, retreat, mission and migrant ministry. For many years, though not a parent myself, I came to be aware of the difficulties of parenthood. In as much as adapting to life-changes is difficult, how much more adapting to growing children. In confessions and counseling sessions with faithful people, I become conscious of the hurts & pains suffered by both parents and children alike in their difficulties with parenthood.

    Parents hurt by their children’s disobedience, i.e. going against their will; children blaming their parents for their misfortunes in life. All because of our limitations in parenthood. Parenthood indeed is not an easy task rightly so that we pray to OMPH that we may learn from our experiences of adapting to the growth of our growing children.

    Today, we honor the Holy Family, the family who parented the child Jesus. Our gospel tells us that like any other family, the Holy Family also experienced the difficulties of parenthood. Joseph and Mary followed the proper traditions of raising the child Jesus. They did their best. But as we all know, they also experience how Jesus became disobedient to them, going against their will.

    Surely parents here could relate with Joseph & Mary, and know the hurts, pains and anxieties they experience when children start to grow up and be on their own. Like my mother would say, when we, her children became independent from her, “Kung puede palang ibalik sa tiyan.” (If I could only bring you back in my womb…) It is the same way with the experience of a chicken hen that raises ducks as her chicks. When the duck-chicks, which by nature a swimmer, start to swim and float on a pond, the mother hen would be extremely worried because she cannot swim and she gets anxious that her chicks will get drowned.

    This is also what and how Joseph and Mary experienced parenting Jesus. When the child Jesus began to grow up in age & maturity, his parents also experienced the difficulties of parenthood. However, the Holy Family’s experience could teach us more about parenting, in view of adapting to our growing children.

    First, parenthood is a family matter, not only of parents. To parent a family is not only about the husband and wife tandem in raising their children but it is more on the dynamic teamwork between parents and children. If it was difficult for Mary and Joseph to raise and adjust with Jesus, it was also difficult for Jesus to grow up in his own family. In as much as being parent is difficult, we also know that growing up maturely (to be on our own) is difficult. If Jesus only obey his parents’ will,  we wonder: would we be able to benefit from and share with the salvation God has given us through Jesus, who did not remain a child of Mary and Joseph but become our Christ, our Savior? Surely Jesus had been an obedient Child to His parent, but above all, Jesus became an obedient adult Christ to our God, the Father.

    Second, parenthood is also about trusting in God’s way of raising and forming all of us His children. Inasmuch as we are tasked to parent to our little ones, raising and adapting to their growth, we must never forget that ultimately God is our Father – our ultimate Parent, and we are all His children. If we want the best for our children, God also knows, wants and does what is best for each one of us. God knows what was best for us when we were children, surely, he knows what is best for us when we become mature adult parent to His little ones. So trust and have faith in God’s will, in God’s way of parenting us.

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    To parent a child is to work together then with one another as family of parents and children as well as to work with and in deep faith and trust of God’s way of parenting us. Perhaps these days we consider:  “What kind of parent we have been? What is your parenting styles? Have you been a CARPENTER parent who designs, measures, builds up & wills what is best for your children? Or are you a GARDENER parent who prepares, tends, & cares for God’s child in you growing to be a blooming, budding & fruitful blessing for all, God intended our children to be? What need to be improved then, as we learn to adapt to our growing God’s children with us?

    Christmas challenges us Christian to be responsible parents of Jesus in our lives today. Parenting our growing children is also our way of being responsible to Jesus, God’s Word made flesh in us. As we celebrate the feast of the Holy Family, we pray that the Holy Family will continue to inspire all Christian families and communities in parenting our growing children. Amen.

  • Filled with Grace and Power

    Filled with Grace and Power

    December 26, 2024 – Thursday, Feast of St Stephen, First Martyr

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    Christmas is a joyful season. The music, decorations, the variety of food and the many gatherings during this season give the festive and joyous atmosphere. Yet, the liturgy today, just a day after the birth of Jesus reminds us how faith and commitment to the Word-made-flesh will make us a contradiction to many.

    Indeed, yesterday we celebrated the joyful birthday of a child and today we celebrate the cruel death of an innocent man. In some ways, the birth of Jesus led to the death of Stephen, one of the first deacons of the church and the first Martyr. Stephen was put to death because of his faith in Jesus, declaring him to be the glorious Son of Man standing at the right hand of God.

    St. Luke describes Stephen dying with two prayers on his lips. First, a prayer of surrender, “Lord, Jesus, receive my spirit.” Second, a prayer of petition for his executioners, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.”

    When Jesus was dying on the cross, he had two similar prayers on his lips as well, a prayer of surrender, “Father, into your hands I commend my spirit” and a prayer of petition for his executioners, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they are doing.” We can see that Jesus prays to the Father while Stephen prays to the risen Lord.

    Mary’s child is now the risen Lord and can be prayed to as we would pray to God. In the church, we often pray to the Father through Jesus, but we are also invited to pray directly to Jesus. Stephen died as Jesus died because he was “filled with the Holy Spirit.”

    We have been given the gift of the same Holy Spirit, and it is the Spirit who empowers us both to live like Jesus and to die like Jesus. On this feast of Saint Stephen, we pray for a fresh outpouring of that Spirit into our lives in this Season of Christmas that we may also be filled with grace and power like him. Hinaut pa.

  • TO HAVE A HEART THAT IS FREE

    TO HAVE A HEART THAT IS FREE

    December 14, 2024 – Saturday of the Second Week of Advent

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    Have you ever experienced being opposed by others because you are different? Because you think and do things different from what many would think and do? Have you also experienced being rejected because you do not adhere to the status quo, to what they used to follow and live?

    Such opposition can be experienced within our organization, work or communities. And when we become a person who thinks, acts and believes to something different from the rest, we could become a threat to that “status quo.” We will be disliked and rejected by many.

    In Matthew’s Gospel today, it tells us how the arrival of Jesus was received with opposition by people around him particularly of those in the leadership. Despite the call of the prophets from the ancient times from Isaiah, Elijah and up to the person of John the Baptist, God’s coming was received with great opposition.

    Indeed, the prophets called the people to turn away from sin and selfishness, yet, because of this they also received violent condemnation from the powerful. This happened to John the Baptist who confronted King Herod for his immoral union with his brother’s wife. In consequence, John was silenced by beheading him. In the words of Jesus, he said, “they treated him as they pleased.”

    In spite of this , the Lord continued to reveal himself, yet the people refused to recognize him because their hearts were filled with malice and evil. These people who continually rejected and opposed Jesus had become so comfortable with life but trapped by their own selfishness.

    They held on to that comfort they enjoyed in their way of life that they neither want a change nor to be challenged. They were afraid to lose what they enjoyed. Herod and his mistress were also contented with their immoral life and did not want to be confronted. Thus, these people did not want God to change their life. What they seek was the preservation of that kind of life they were living. However, this was not what God wanted. Jesus wanted them that their hearts be free, that is why, he had to confront them.

    In this Season of Advent, we are reminded to also examine ourselves if we have become too comfortable with what we have been doing, with what we have been thinking and with what we are living for.

    The problem is not the comfort in itself, the issue is our attitude or way of life in choosing to be indifferent and unmoved with what is happening around us and with God’s self-revelations in our life. This also include our attitudes of not wanting to change, not wanting to be challenged, to be criticized and or to be corrected.

    And so, we are invited today to confront ourselves with those attitudes that do not lead us closer to others and closer to God. As the Responsorial Psalm proclaimed today, “Lord, make us turn to you; let us see your face and we shall be saved.”

    As we prepare ourselves to celebrate the birth of Jesus, may our hearts be free. Hinaut pa.

  • The Danger of Childish Attitudes

    The Danger of Childish Attitudes

    December 13, 2024 – Friday of the Second Week of Advent

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    Children are especially favored by God because of their vulnerability and dependence. The affection a child shows and the child’s capacity accept without judgment and pretension, makes a child more open and welcoming. In fact, Jesus would tell us that the Kingdom of God belongs to the children.

    Yet, in this particular Gospel today, we have heard another attitude of a child, that can also be present among us adult. This dark side of becoming “childish” endangers our relationships as well as our dependence to God.

    Indeed, being “childish” reveals our negative and selfish attitudes. For example, a child can throw up tantrums when displeased and does not get what he/she wanted. This attitude of a child is an unconscious form of control and manipulation.

    Being childish can develop into deep seated selfishness in the heart of a person that it would propel us to get what we want no matter how unfair that would be to others. This focuses on personal satisfaction and personal promotion even at the expense of others. Such attitude prevents us to believe and accept other ideas and perspectives because we are so convinced of our own judgments and beliefs. Thus, being childish is also characterized by being indifferent.

    This was the very attitude of those who rejected Jesus as well as John the Baptist. And they rejected Jesus because he was unconventional. He ate and drank with sinners. He touched and mingled with the sick and the unclean people. Jesus preached a loving and forgiving God the Father. He too was from Galilee, from an insignificant town called Nazareth. He was not a well-known Jewish scholar and did not come from a rich and influential family. And all of these Jesus became a threat to the status quo.

    The very people who were in power like the Chief Priests of the Temple and the Pharisees were already contented with the comfort that they had. They enjoyed power and influence. They too preferred a strict and unforgiving God because it was through that belief that they could advance their self-interest. They used their position in the society to enrich themselves at the expense of the poor.

    Thus, they were against Jesus because he was changing their ways. Their hearts were filled with bitterness, hate, anger and the desire to have more; in other words, they were filled with themselves, worshipping their very selves. This is idolatry.

    These were the reasons why they could not accept Jesus or even recognize the presence of God in Jesus. They rejected John the Baptist by accusing him of being possessed by a demon for being different and radical. They rejected and despised Jesus, accusing him for being a glutton and drunkard because Jesus ate and drank with sinners and the poor.

    And so when our heart is poisoned with selfishness makes us blind to what God shows us now, “blind” to what is happening around us today. We refuse to see the suffering of others because we tend to only see ourselves. This attitude would also make us deaf to what God is telling us now and deaf to the suffering of others.

    The very antidote to this, is the call to be become childlike and to turn away from childishness.  Indeed, the Lord invites us today that we may have the courage and the faith to become childlike who can see and hear God every day in our lives. Hinaut pa.

  • THE LORD COMFORTS US

    THE LORD COMFORTS US

    December 10, 2024  – Tuesday of the Second Week of Advent

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    How do we live our life as Christians today? How Christian are we, really? These are questions that invite us to re-examine the attitudes of our hearts in the way we live our baptism and prepare ourselves for the coming Christmas. Let us explore, then, the challenges and invitations that our readings bring to us today.

    In the first reading, Prophet Isaiah told us about the promised Messiah. His prophecy was situated when the Hebrew people were exiled in Babylon, hoping for God’s mercy. They believed that their exile was a punishment to their unfaithfulness to God. However, they longed for a wrong Messiah.

    Their misconception about the Messiah was influenced by what their eyes can only see. They only saw the powerful kings from other nations. Those kings were powerful because they had thousands of armies enough to kill and defeat all enemies. Thus, the people had thought that their Messiah should be like them who power and might come from military power to wage war and violence. Indeed, one should fear this God because this is an angry God.

    However, this very image of God of the people is somehow opposite to what Isaiah told us. “Comfort, give comfort to my people…” These were the first words in the first reading. This tells us that God comes to comfort us because the Lord God hears our cries and that the Lord God is not a stranger to our difficulties and suffering.

    This comfort did not mean, “revenge” or a “bloody war” towards our enemies and people we hate. This comfort from God means that God comes to us, that God is with us and God comes with power of love and compassion like a shepherd who feeds his flock and seeks out the lost sheep and rejoices when the lost is found.

    This is what Jesus pictured out for his disciples to understand the love and compassion of God. Certainly, the Lord is like a shepherd searching for his sheep. This shepherd gives importance to every sheep under his care.

    This tells us, that our baptism is also patterned in the identity of the Messiah. We are called to give comfort to each other especially in times of pain and sorrow. We too are called to take care of each other, showing concern especially to those who are in difficult situations and those who are feeling lost.

    Isaiah tells us as well to prepare the way of the Lord because it is in welcoming God into our lives and hearts that we are transformed by God’s loving embrace and presence. This may lead us to comfort each one, to care for each other, and to practice concretely our Christian faith through our concern and generosity. Hinaut pa.