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  • PARENTING 101

    PARENTING 101

    December 29, 2024 – Feast of the Holy Family

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/122924.cfm)

    In every Wednesday novena to Our Mother of Perpetual Help, one intention we pray is that we may learn to adapt to our growing children. Parenthood, as we all know, is not only about raising children but also adjusting to our growing children. Thus to parent a child is more than just caring for the growth of the children; it is also adjusting and learning in the process, as children grow in maturity and age.

    As Redemptorist missionary involved in parish, retreat, mission and migrant ministry. For many years, though not a parent myself, I came to be aware of the difficulties of parenthood. In as much as adapting to life-changes is difficult, how much more adapting to growing children. In confessions and counseling sessions with faithful people, I become conscious of the hurts & pains suffered by both parents and children alike in their difficulties with parenthood.

    Parents hurt by their children’s disobedience, i.e. going against their will; children blaming their parents for their misfortunes in life. All because of our limitations in parenthood. Parenthood indeed is not an easy task rightly so that we pray to OMPH that we may learn from our experiences of adapting to the growth of our growing children.

    Today, we honor the Holy Family, the family who parented the child Jesus. Our gospel tells us that like any other family, the Holy Family also experienced the difficulties of parenthood. Joseph and Mary followed the proper traditions of raising the child Jesus. They did their best. But as we all know, they also experience how Jesus became disobedient to them, going against their will.

    Surely parents here could relate with Joseph & Mary, and know the hurts, pains and anxieties they experience when children start to grow up and be on their own. Like my mother would say, when we, her children became independent from her, “Kung puede palang ibalik sa tiyan.” (If I could only bring you back in my womb…) It is the same way with the experience of a chicken hen that raises ducks as her chicks. When the duck-chicks, which by nature a swimmer, start to swim and float on a pond, the mother hen would be extremely worried because she cannot swim and she gets anxious that her chicks will get drowned.

    This is also what and how Joseph and Mary experienced parenting Jesus. When the child Jesus began to grow up in age & maturity, his parents also experienced the difficulties of parenthood. However, the Holy Family’s experience could teach us more about parenting, in view of adapting to our growing children.

    First, parenthood is a family matter, not only of parents. To parent a family is not only about the husband and wife tandem in raising their children but it is more on the dynamic teamwork between parents and children. If it was difficult for Mary and Joseph to raise and adjust with Jesus, it was also difficult for Jesus to grow up in his own family. In as much as being parent is difficult, we also know that growing up maturely (to be on our own) is difficult. If Jesus only obey his parents’ will,  we wonder: would we be able to benefit from and share with the salvation God has given us through Jesus, who did not remain a child of Mary and Joseph but become our Christ, our Savior? Surely Jesus had been an obedient Child to His parent, but above all, Jesus became an obedient adult Christ to our God, the Father.

    Second, parenthood is also about trusting in God’s way of raising and forming all of us His children. Inasmuch as we are tasked to parent to our little ones, raising and adapting to their growth, we must never forget that ultimately God is our Father – our ultimate Parent, and we are all His children. If we want the best for our children, God also knows, wants and does what is best for each one of us. God knows what was best for us when we were children, surely, he knows what is best for us when we become mature adult parent to His little ones. So trust and have faith in God’s will, in God’s way of parenting us.

    Photo from YoungCatholic.com

    To parent a child is to work together then with one another as family of parents and children as well as to work with and in deep faith and trust of God’s way of parenting us. Perhaps these days we consider:  “What kind of parent we have been? What is your parenting styles? Have you been a CARPENTER parent who designs, measures, builds up & wills what is best for your children? Or are you a GARDENER parent who prepares, tends, & cares for God’s child in you growing to be a blooming, budding & fruitful blessing for all, God intended our children to be? What need to be improved then, as we learn to adapt to our growing God’s children with us?

    Christmas challenges us Christian to be responsible parents of Jesus in our lives today. Parenting our growing children is also our way of being responsible to Jesus, God’s Word made flesh in us. As we celebrate the feast of the Holy Family, we pray that the Holy Family will continue to inspire all Christian families and communities in parenting our growing children. Amen.

  • Filled with Grace and Power

    Filled with Grace and Power

    December 26, 2024 – Thursday, Feast of St Stephen, First Martyr

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/122624.cfm)

    Christmas is a joyful season. The music, decorations, the variety of food and the many gatherings during this season give the festive and joyous atmosphere. Yet, the liturgy today, just a day after the birth of Jesus reminds us how faith and commitment to the Word-made-flesh will make us a contradiction to many.

    Indeed, yesterday we celebrated the joyful birthday of a child and today we celebrate the cruel death of an innocent man. In some ways, the birth of Jesus led to the death of Stephen, one of the first deacons of the church and the first Martyr. Stephen was put to death because of his faith in Jesus, declaring him to be the glorious Son of Man standing at the right hand of God.

    St. Luke describes Stephen dying with two prayers on his lips. First, a prayer of surrender, “Lord, Jesus, receive my spirit.” Second, a prayer of petition for his executioners, “Lord, do not hold this sin against them.”

    When Jesus was dying on the cross, he had two similar prayers on his lips as well, a prayer of surrender, “Father, into your hands I commend my spirit” and a prayer of petition for his executioners, “Father, forgive them for they know not what they are doing.” We can see that Jesus prays to the Father while Stephen prays to the risen Lord.

    Mary’s child is now the risen Lord and can be prayed to as we would pray to God. In the church, we often pray to the Father through Jesus, but we are also invited to pray directly to Jesus. Stephen died as Jesus died because he was “filled with the Holy Spirit.”

    We have been given the gift of the same Holy Spirit, and it is the Spirit who empowers us both to live like Jesus and to die like Jesus. On this feast of Saint Stephen, we pray for a fresh outpouring of that Spirit into our lives in this Season of Christmas that we may also be filled with grace and power like him. Hinaut pa.

  • TO BELIEVE

    TO BELIEVE

    December 20, 2024 – Fifth Day of Misa de Aguinaldo

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/122024.cfm)

    There is something I want you to do now. This is a short breathing exercise for this morning. Ready?

    Breathe deeply and inhale God’s Spirit. Hold.

    And exhale your fear and negative emotions.

    Inhale God’s assurance of love. Hold.

    Exhale your doubts and anxieties of tomorrow.

    And inhale the gift of the present moment. Hold.

    Now, exhale the pains of past.

    Doing this would hopefully help us to think clearly and recognize what we have in life at the moment. Possibly, some of us now have many concerns and worries in our own homes that we also bring at work and in our studies or to our relationships.

     Things can be complicated when we do not see the direction of each aspect of our life. Home, work, friendship, love-life and other extra-curricular activities when they come together, our hands will be full. And when there is one or two aspects in our life and become overwhelming for us, other aspects of life will also be affected. And from all the stress and burdens that we experience each day, there is indeed a need to take a break, that we will first breathe deeply and re-balance our life.

    And our faith has something important to remind us today. We are able to recognize this in the life of Mary, who in the midst of confusion and worries, when the angel appeared, she was able to manage and gather her mind – and she was able to do that because she has faith, because she believed.

    Yet, what does it really mean to believe? What is the meaning of faith in our everyday life? Or does it have a meaning at all in our daily life and daily affairs?

    The Gospel brings us now into that story and life of Mary, in which she believed even in the midst of a seemingly unbelievable circumstances in her life.

    Thus, the Angel Gabriel greeted her, “Hail, full of grace! The Lord is with you!” Reflecting upon it, we find that the greeting is so deep. It is a statement from God that Mary is certainly favored and that God is delighted with Mary. Mary is, indeed, filled with GOD!

    In her simplicity and being an ordinary woman, she accepted God’s invitation extra-ordinarily because ‘she believed’. In her simplicity, Mary felt the trouble of being honored as favored by God. I am sure that Mary with her human emotions felt confused and afraid when the angel appeared before her. The revelation of the angel was difficult to understand, thus, she pondered in her heart the meaning of those.

    These troubles, confusion and fear led her to ask in all honesty, “how can this be?” It was neither a question of defiance nor of doubts but of concern on how she would go about it. The answer she got was God’s promise, that God is with her. This is how Mary inhaled God’s spirit.

    This promise from God inspired Mary and motivated her to give her consent, her big YES to God. Mary was called by God to be the Mother of Jesus, and Mary responded with joy and confidence. Her response is out of gratitude to God for being good to her and out of love and kindness for that was her experience with God. And this is how she exhaled her fears and anxieties.

    This tells us now that when we also respond out of joy and serve others out of gratitude, then, we will be able to give life to others, like Mary, because we too will be able to breathe God’s spirit and expel our fears and worries.

    Indeed, Mary’s whole life is all about love, only love. There is no bitterness in the heart of Mary; no scars of fear or hate, only love. That is why, Mary would always choose to love which she always does. In her heart, there are no grudges, no malice. This love of Mary makes her affectionately close to us. Thus, we should neither fear nor hesitate to be close to her.

    The mission of Mary now was to be part of our story of salvation. Mary has a big role here, and that is, to be the Mother of the Redeemer of the World, who will bring peace and mercy. With Mary’s open heart, pure conscience, deep faith and love in God, she accepted the call from God and prompted her to declare, “Behold, I am God’s servant. Let it be done to me according to your word!” She owned this statement and kept it in her heart despite her confusions and anxieties. And this is how Mary inhaled the gift of the present moment – because in doing that she has placed herself in God because she believed in the saving presence of God.

    Everything became possible with God because Mary believed. Remember, God cannot and will not work wonders with us unless we give our consent and believe.

    This is the invitation today for us, TO BELIEVE, because God reveals His presence in the events of our ordinary life.

    TO BELIEVE, then, is to be constantly aware of God’s many revelations in every single moment of our life. And so, inhale God’s spirit.

    TO BELIEVE is to trust in the Lord’s Words and promise despite our troubles and questions, worries and anxieties. And so, exhale your fears and anxieties.

    TO BELIEVE in the Lord also means to be aware of the needs of others –that we may become more responsive to the needs of others like Mary who responded for the salvation of all. And so, let us inhale love not hatred.

    TO BELIEVE is to listen to God’s invitation so that through our life, the Lord will be able to do wonderful things when we allow God also to change us. And so, exhale our arrogance.

    TO BELIEVE also means being pregnant with God’s presence. Yes, God invites us today that our life, our words and actions, and our relationships with one another will become pregnant with His loving and compassionate presence. And so, inhale God’s presence. Hinaut pa.

  • TO HAVE A HEART THAT IS FREE

    TO HAVE A HEART THAT IS FREE

    December 14, 2024 – Saturday of the Second Week of Advent

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/121424.cfm)

    Have you ever experienced being opposed by others because you are different? Because you think and do things different from what many would think and do? Have you also experienced being rejected because you do not adhere to the status quo, to what they used to follow and live?

    Such opposition can be experienced within our organization, work or communities. And when we become a person who thinks, acts and believes to something different from the rest, we could become a threat to that “status quo.” We will be disliked and rejected by many.

    In Matthew’s Gospel today, it tells us how the arrival of Jesus was received with opposition by people around him particularly of those in the leadership. Despite the call of the prophets from the ancient times from Isaiah, Elijah and up to the person of John the Baptist, God’s coming was received with great opposition.

    Indeed, the prophets called the people to turn away from sin and selfishness, yet, because of this they also received violent condemnation from the powerful. This happened to John the Baptist who confronted King Herod for his immoral union with his brother’s wife. In consequence, John was silenced by beheading him. In the words of Jesus, he said, “they treated him as they pleased.”

    In spite of this , the Lord continued to reveal himself, yet the people refused to recognize him because their hearts were filled with malice and evil. These people who continually rejected and opposed Jesus had become so comfortable with life but trapped by their own selfishness.

    They held on to that comfort they enjoyed in their way of life that they neither want a change nor to be challenged. They were afraid to lose what they enjoyed. Herod and his mistress were also contented with their immoral life and did not want to be confronted. Thus, these people did not want God to change their life. What they seek was the preservation of that kind of life they were living. However, this was not what God wanted. Jesus wanted them that their hearts be free, that is why, he had to confront them.

    In this Season of Advent, we are reminded to also examine ourselves if we have become too comfortable with what we have been doing, with what we have been thinking and with what we are living for.

    The problem is not the comfort in itself, the issue is our attitude or way of life in choosing to be indifferent and unmoved with what is happening around us and with God’s self-revelations in our life. This also include our attitudes of not wanting to change, not wanting to be challenged, to be criticized and or to be corrected.

    And so, we are invited today to confront ourselves with those attitudes that do not lead us closer to others and closer to God. As the Responsorial Psalm proclaimed today, “Lord, make us turn to you; let us see your face and we shall be saved.”

    As we prepare ourselves to celebrate the birth of Jesus, may our hearts be free. Hinaut pa.

  • The Danger of Childish Attitudes

    The Danger of Childish Attitudes

    December 13, 2024 – Friday of the Second Week of Advent

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/121324.cfm)

    Children are especially favored by God because of their vulnerability and dependence. The affection a child shows and the child’s capacity accept without judgment and pretension, makes a child more open and welcoming. In fact, Jesus would tell us that the Kingdom of God belongs to the children.

    Yet, in this particular Gospel today, we have heard another attitude of a child, that can also be present among us adult. This dark side of becoming “childish” endangers our relationships as well as our dependence to God.

    Indeed, being “childish” reveals our negative and selfish attitudes. For example, a child can throw up tantrums when displeased and does not get what he/she wanted. This attitude of a child is an unconscious form of control and manipulation.

    Being childish can develop into deep seated selfishness in the heart of a person that it would propel us to get what we want no matter how unfair that would be to others. This focuses on personal satisfaction and personal promotion even at the expense of others. Such attitude prevents us to believe and accept other ideas and perspectives because we are so convinced of our own judgments and beliefs. Thus, being childish is also characterized by being indifferent.

    This was the very attitude of those who rejected Jesus as well as John the Baptist. And they rejected Jesus because he was unconventional. He ate and drank with sinners. He touched and mingled with the sick and the unclean people. Jesus preached a loving and forgiving God the Father. He too was from Galilee, from an insignificant town called Nazareth. He was not a well-known Jewish scholar and did not come from a rich and influential family. And all of these Jesus became a threat to the status quo.

    The very people who were in power like the Chief Priests of the Temple and the Pharisees were already contented with the comfort that they had. They enjoyed power and influence. They too preferred a strict and unforgiving God because it was through that belief that they could advance their self-interest. They used their position in the society to enrich themselves at the expense of the poor.

    Thus, they were against Jesus because he was changing their ways. Their hearts were filled with bitterness, hate, anger and the desire to have more; in other words, they were filled with themselves, worshipping their very selves. This is idolatry.

    These were the reasons why they could not accept Jesus or even recognize the presence of God in Jesus. They rejected John the Baptist by accusing him of being possessed by a demon for being different and radical. They rejected and despised Jesus, accusing him for being a glutton and drunkard because Jesus ate and drank with sinners and the poor.

    And so when our heart is poisoned with selfishness makes us blind to what God shows us now, “blind” to what is happening around us today. We refuse to see the suffering of others because we tend to only see ourselves. This attitude would also make us deaf to what God is telling us now and deaf to the suffering of others.

    The very antidote to this, is the call to be become childlike and to turn away from childishness.  Indeed, the Lord invites us today that we may have the courage and the faith to become childlike who can see and hear God every day in our lives. Hinaut pa.