Peace! Kalilintad! Shalom!

Category: Feasts

  • THE CHILD IN US

    THE CHILD IN US

    January 21, 2024 – Feast of the Sto. Niño

    Is. 9:1-6; Ps 98; Eph 1:3-6,15-18; Mk 10:13-16

    What kind of a child do we have in our heart? We may not be a child physically, but we may still ack like a child. To act like a child does not necessarily connote negative sides. Recognizing the child in us will surely make us more aware of who we are, the intentions of our heart, the kind of dream and hopes we have as well as the pain, the sadness or the trauma that we have endured.

    Hence, on this feast of the Sto. Niño, I would like to focus on the qualities of the child that may be in us, and to see how the Lord Jesus, born as a child to Mary and Joseph, invites us today.

    Psychologists and Psychiatrists have coined the term “adult children” or adults with unresolved childhood issues. This term tells us that though we may be already an adult or even in advanced age, yet, we still carry issues and problems in us that originated in our childhood. Not being able to reconcile or not able to find resolutions to the issues before may affect us greatly in the way we relate with others and with God, being shown in our patterned behaviors and attitudes.

    Dr. Charles Whitfield an American physician and psychotherapist refers to the inner child in us as the “real self.” This inner child in us may have suffered or wounded by armed conflicts which is common here in our region in Lanao, or caused by natural disasters, family problems, deprivation of basic needs like food and clothing, parental neglect and lack of affection and affirmation or by abuse (physical, verbal, emotional or sexual).

    As adult children or adults with unresolved issues we manifest childish behaviors. Being “childish” reveals our negative and selfish attitudes. A child can throw up tantrums when displeased and does not get what he/she wanted. This attitude of a child is an unconscious form of control and manipulation to get what he/she desired.

    Being childish is being selfish to get what we want no matter how unfair that would be to others. Being childish focuses on what “satisfies me” and on what “I can gain.”  To be childish prevents us to “listen” to what is more important. It also prevents us to believe and to accept other ideas because we are already convinced of our own judgments and beliefs. Thus, being childish is also characterized by being indifferent.

    Thus, because of the unresolved and unreconciled issues we have in the past, we become childish. Our inner child is trapped in that painful past, in that trauma or deprivation, hence, making us in the present to be insecure, fearful, and selfish.

    That is why, there is a need for us to find healing and reconciliation so that our inner child will be free. Only then that we become “childlike,” a quality of a child that expresses confidence, innocence, trust, faith and affection. Being childlike, we see the world through the eyes of a child, non-judgmental and free of prejudices. Being childlike, we express our hopes and dreams without being terrified of what lies ahead of us. Being childlike, we embrace and enjoy the present moment and become more contented of what we have. Being childlike, our heart is always filled with gratitude and faith.

    This is the call and reminded of Jesus to his disciples as proclaimed by the Gospel of Mark. The disciples of Jesus who at first did not like people bringing children to Jesus, as being scolded by the Lord. Jesus made a point and taught a very important lesson and that is in finding the kingdom of God among the presence of the children.

    Children, who at that time, had no legal identity. They less important in the society because they are not adults yet, thus, not fully developed persons. However, the Kingdom of God belongs to the children. This is true because of the very qualities of children, and that is of being trusting, open and dependent.

    Yet, to our hearts that have become cold, indifferent, judgmental, corrupt and selfish, the Kingdom of God becomes too far from us, not because God does not want us, but because we do not want to be with God. That is why, Jesus reminded all of us, “whoever does not accept the Kingdom of God like a child, will not enter it.” Only by having the heart of child that expresses true confidence and faith in the Father, that we shall also be able to embrace Kingdom of God already in us.

    This is the message and the call for us today as we celebrate the feast of the Sto. Niño, Jesus’ image as a child who have shown us what it is to be childlike, how it is to be childlike. Hence, there are three invitations for us today.

    BE RECONCILED WITH THE PAST. Let us not burden ourselves today with our issues when we were children. Let not what happened in the past, control or manipulate us at present. Seek resolution, reconciliation and healing so what we may be able to live in freedom and peace.

    PROTECT THE CHILDREN. Let us nurture a home, a community and a church that protects the rights of children, that nurtures the potentials of our children and encourages growth and maturity of our children. To us adults, be mindful not to cause harm, danger or abuse to children. Rather, express love and affection, affirm and recognize the worth and value of our children.

    LET US ALL BE CHILDLIKE. Let not selfishness limit our heart. Let not insecurities and negativities ruin our relationships. Let us rather re-claim and re-affirm our inner child and become trusting, dependent to God, open and embracing. Hinaut pa.

  • BY CHOICE than Adoption

    BY CHOICE than Adoption

    December 31, 2023 – Feast of the Holy Family

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/123123.cfm)

    How many of you here have experiences with adopted children? Be might you an adopted child yourself, or have adopted a child in a family as son/daughter, or brother/sister or relatives. Child adoption has never been an easy experience within the family. It entails a lot of adjustments and complications not only to the adopted child but also to the parents and the whole family as well.

    I remember once I counselled a couple who have no child of their own and have decided to adopt a child. As the child grew and eventually learned that she is adopted, they observed that their child becomes problematic and difficult. I advise them to try to take care of the child even more, as well as to acknowledge the child not as adopted- someone taken on, which connotes someone who is “sabit o sakay lang” but as chosen “pinili”, as someone they have chosen as their own among other abandoned children.  The child might not be their own but the child is whom they have personally chosen as their own. Essentially, the child then is chosen – the one they have chosen, not only adopted.

    Either by natural birth or adoption, as a child, we are not only taken and accepted but moreso Chosen “Pinili” by our own parents and family. Thus as parent, your child then might be or not be your own, but basically you choose your child. We are chosen children then, not only of God but also by our own fathers and mothers, and our own family as well.

    Christmas reminds us that God comes into our lives as a Child – not as fully grown man or as superman or as god, but as a poor child on a manger. For a child to live and grow, God’s child needs a human parent and family like any other child. Jesus Christ, God’s son has to be taken, accepted, adopted and above all chosen by human parents and family. He grew up then in, with, through his family who adopted and chosen Him to be their own. And In a Family Jesus was born, loved, lived and have grown as a Person. Not in a Monastery or Convent. Once I receive a Christmas card that say: “A child is born in our midst”. Well that’s okay because that is the core message of Christmas. But what made me suspect then was that card was sent from the sisters’ convent. Imagine sisters’ sending me a message that a child is born in their midst”. Me batang ipinanganak sa kanila. Hmmm??? Yes, God’s son has a family, a foster parents and family who chose Him to be their own.

    Today we honor the Holy Family, the very first family who welcomes and willingly accepts the Immanuel “the God with us” into our lives. Mary and Joseph are the very first parents who adopted and chosen the child of God Jesus to be their very own as member of their family. Our gospel today gives us a description on how Mary and Joseph do their best to parent the child Jesus into their own lives as they observe their own local cultural and religious traditions, while conscious of the mysterious unique experience of adopting and choosing God’s blessing into their lives. Yes, with Mary and Joseph they are and become a normal human family; but with the child Jesus, they are and become a HOLY family – now member of God’s family.

    Honoring the Holy Family on Christmas season posts the on-going ever-present challenge for us, like Mary and Joseph to adopt and parent Jesus, God’s child by choice into our lives now and always. By willingly accepting Jesus into our lives to be our own, part of our own lives as family and community, we come to know also that we also are and becoming God’s adopted and chosen children and people, part of His Holy Family. Sa ating pag-angking kay Hesus na ating kapamilya, tayo ay naging at maging ka-anak rin ng Dios at kamag-anak ng anak ng Dios. As we consider Jesus as our chosen family member, we are and become God’s children and Jesus family.

    With the Holy Family, this Christmas season, and the coming New Year remind us always that God comes to us as a Child, who can brings us a lot of joys as well as uncertainties, but above all another chance to live our lives for the better, as His willing chosen parent and family. Have a Grace-filled Christmas and New Year to all us. Amen.

  • On Higher Grounds

    On Higher Grounds

    August 6, 2023 – Feast of the Transfiguration of the Lord

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/080623.cfm)

    Have you ever been lost in the forest? What do you think is the best thing to do if you get lost in the forest?

    Others would say that to do what is practical, which is to find your way back. You may have found a way back, but still you have not arrived to the place where you want to be. Others would suggest to pray and “balihon ang sinina” or incorrectly wear your shirt. Again nothing would happen except you are still lost with incorrectly worn shirt, and never arrive at your destination.

    The best way to do if you are lost in the forest is to first stop your journey, and then look for some higher grounds, so that you will know and see where you are, where have you been, where you want to go and what the best way or road to take. Meaning, you have to stop first then climb a high place – a hill, mountain or a tree, so that from there you get a wider perspective of your journey and travel.

    Being lost in the forest may reflect our experience of life. There are times in our lives that we feel lost & confused in all our endeavors and dreams. Because of this, like being and getting lost in the forest, it is easy for us to feel tired, dry, afraid, anxious and hopeless in life to reach and achieve our aspirations, hopes and dreams in life.

    Our gospel today narrates us the Transfiguration of the Lord. We hear Jesus brought his apostles to Mt. Thabor so that they would witness the glory of God revealed before them. After they have followed the Lord in his preaching and ministry in many towns and villages, the apostles have now experienced weariness and exhaustion in their journey, even to the point others have cast doubt in the Lord’s person and authority. For them to be inspired (to be in-spirit) and encourage once again, Jesus brought then to mountain of Thabor to have a preview or prelude of God’s glory so that they themselves taste and witness God’s glory made manifest in Jesus Himself. And then, they hear & encounter themselves the call & challenge from God to listen and have faith in Jesus, his beloved Son.

    Sometimes in life, we need to stop for awhile from all our endeavors and aspirations, and then, climb the Lord’s mountain in order for us to view a much wider perspective in life and our journey. Like in our modern lingo of cellphones, we need a higher ground to get a good signal; sometimes we need to climb the mountain with the Lord for us to get a good and strong signal of God’s presence and love.

    We call this today as RETREAT with the Lord – a time in our life where we stop or slowdown from all our plans, aspirations and activities in life, spend some time to distance from our usual routine and look and climb for a high place in order to get a wider perspective of our life. Time and place to ask ourselves: “where am I now in relation to my life, dreams, aspirations and commitments?  Am I lost or in the right path? What else should be done? What need to be change?” Retreat would also mean to Treat ourselves again & anew to God’s vision of life-glory. In other word, to take care & nourish ourselves anew to the vision & fervor of God’s glory. And above all,  in the Lord’s transfiguration & our retreat moments, we are challenged also to be “transfigured”, i.e in our modern-tech language, to do “system update” for us to be in sync, upgraded, & outfitted with the current plans of God for our redemption

    As we follow the Lord, as Christian, it is healthy then for us to sometimes to retreat & be transfigured, i.e.,  to stop and climb up on a higher ground with the Lord in order to have a wider perspective of life, to witness God’s presence revealed in Christ, and to hear again & anew God’s call & challenge, our vocation: “This is my Son, the beloved. Listen to Him”. Amen.

  • SEEKING OUR HAPPINESS AND FULFILLMENT

    SEEKING OUR HAPPINESS AND FULFILLMENT

    August 1, 2023 – Solemnity of St. Alphonsus Maria de Liguori

    Readings

    From the Book of Prophet Isaiah (61:1-3)

    The spirit of the Lord is upon me; because the Lord has anointed me;

    He has sent me to bring good news to the oppressed, to bind up the broken hearted, to proclaim liberty to the captives, and release to the prisoners;

    To proclaim the year of the Lord’s favor, and the day of vengeance of our God;

    To comfort all who mourn; to provide for those who mourn in Zion –

    To give them a garland instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning,

    The mantle of praise instead of a faint spirit.

    They will be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, to display his glory.

    Responsorial Psalm : Forever I will sing the goodness of the Lord.

    From the Gospel of Matthew (9:35-10:1)

    Then Jesus went about all the cities and villages, teaching in their synagogues, and proclaiming the good news of the kingdom, and curing every disease and every sickness.

    When he saw the crowds, he had compassion for them, because they were harassed and helpless, like sheep without shepherd.

    Then he said to his disciples,

    “The harvest is plentiful, but he laborers are few;

    Therefore ask the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest.”

    Then Jesus summoned his twelve disciples and gave them authority over unclean spirits, to cast them out, and to cure every disease and every sickness.

    Who would not want to be happy? Who would not want a fulfilled life? To be happy and to have a fulfilled life is everyone pursuit in life. This is the very reason why we dream, aspire things for our life and others, hope for a better and comfortable life.

    And in our search for happiness, we also realize that there can be actually many reasons to make us happy from small things to the big and great things. We may also do many things just to make ourselves happy or make other people happy. We can also actually make our life busy in pursuing happiness. This is not just true among adults or old people but even among the young generation. Yet, in making ourselves busy to find happiness we might also lose the opportunity to be really happy. The question now, is on the quality and endurance of our happiness.

    There are many young people today, who entertain themselves with a lot of things. Many are drawn towards online or mobile games to experience a surge of happiness in winning a game. Others would also keep their eyes on the screen to watch Korean TV Series and be entertained with the Korean Idols. Others make themselves busy on everyday TikToks and selfies to be uploaded on Facebook and Instagram.

    Though these are forms of short-term happiness but they can also lead us to what would really make truly happy and fulfilled. However, in our sear, we may be prevented by many things as well especially when expectations from our families and friends are different from what we truly desire. People around us may have something in mind for us, believing that what they think is better for us. Yet, this is not always the case. That is why, there would be individuals whose lives become miserable because they have to follow the desires from others for them.

    This reminds me of the life of Alphonsus whose feast we celebrate today. That is why, I also wonder of the kind of life Alphonsus had when he was young and what led him to affirm his vocation by giving his life for the poor and the most abandoned.

    Alphonsus came from an aristocratic family in Naples, Italy. As the eldest in the family, his father had so much expectations from him. We were told in his biography that an early age he had books on his hands instead of toys. He must have been deprived of playing with other children because as an aristocrat, he needed to receive instructions from various teachers. He was an exceptional boy who even finished his studies in both civil and ecclesiastical laws at the age of 16. In his twenties, he was already a known lawyer in Naples. Not just that, he also excelled in arts and music and authored many books.

    With all these things on him, I am very sure that Alphonsus had felt so much pressure from the family and particularly from his father. His father expected him to succeed and follow him as what had been practiced in their family. His relatives and the whole clan had surely expected him also to follow the footsteps of his father as an aristocrat. This was the reason why at an early age he was expected to follow whatever was told to him. Alphonsus was very careful to follow everything and not to commit any mistakes.

    At that time, any mistake will not go unpunished. We could imagine how Alphonsus had to endure the corporal punishments and the shame, every time he would commit a mistake or a failure. This kind of upbringing had actually a deep influence on the spiritual life of Alphonsus. He was a very scrupulous man. Alphonsus was very afraid of hell and of eternal damnation. He was very careful not to sin and not to commit any mistake because he believed that God would not be able to forgive him.

    Being scrupulous prevented him to be free from shame. He was always haunted by guilt too. Now, we understand how family pressures and his severe upbringing affected his relationship with God. In his lifetime, he struggled to believe that God could forgive him. No matter how small was the mistake or the sin he committed, he would go anxious and worried. Somehow, Alphonsus struggled to find what truly makes him happy and what would truly fulfill his life.

    However, there was something in Alphonsus that really desired for freedom, to be free from pressures, from shame and guilt, and from that severe childhood upbringing. Deep within, Alphonsus desired to express what he really wanted. He searched ways were he could truly express his true self without any pressure or expectation from others. Alphonsus was searching to what would really give meaning and true happiness in his life. This was the reason why he excelled in many things but most importantly with his encounter with the common people.

    It was with the patients at the House of Incurables, the prostitutes of Naples, the men and women in the marketplace and later on with the people in a remote area of Scala, that he found himself, and found God more alive, where he found happiness and fulfillment of this life.

    This was the beginning of the continual conversion of Alphonsus. By becoming more in touched with his struggles and questions, he too became more aware of God’s desire for him more than the pressures of the people’s desire around him. Hence, Alphonsus gave up his profession and his status as an aristocrat by becoming a poor priest. With this decision, it greatly upset and broke the heart of his father to the point of disowning Alphonsus as his son.

    However, God’s desire for Alphonsus cannot be prevented by anybody. God has so much plan for Alphonsus. And for Alphonsus, he willingly sought God’s desire and he found it among the people. This was where Alphonsus also found how good God is to him. He realized how God loved him so much despite his imperfections and weaknesses.

    Our Psalm today proclaims to us, “Forever I will sing the goodness of the Lord.” Alphonsus was indeed singing the Lord’s goodness not just expressed in his paintings, music and writings but also in his person, in the way he related with people. This happiness and fulfillment in Alphonsus touched many men and women including his father. Later on, his father discovered also how God worked in the life of his son and that God had a bigger and better plan for Alphonsus than him.

    Despite the deprivation Alphonsus had and the strict upbringing in his childhood, he did not become a bitter person but rather, his negative experiences allowed him to become understanding and generous to those who were deprived with many things in their life. Consequently, Alphonsus affirmed that the spirit of the Lord is upon him because the Lord anointed him and chose him.

    Today, on this blessed feast day of Alphonsus, the Lord is inviting each of us to continually seek our own happiness and fulfillment , and in our search, we may also be continually converted into God’s heart. Let our search leads us deeper and intimately into God.

    Let us allow the Lord then, to unfold before us his desires for us by being open and welcoming to his invitations to change and to be converted in his ways and thinking. May our encounter with people allow us to affirm God’s desire for us whatever that may be in bringing happiness, joy and peace not just to ourselves but also to people around us. Hinaut pa.

  • Reflection on the Feast of Our Mother of Perpetual Help 2023

    Reflection on the Feast of Our Mother of Perpetual Help 2023

    Drawing strength and inspiration from the recent events in my professional & spiritual life, I am sharing this reflection to all the followers of this beautiful blog, “A Dose of God Today”.

    This day, June 28, 2023, we celebrated our Parish Fiesta in honor of Our Mother of Perpetual Help here at St. Clement’s Church, Redemptorists, La Paz, Iloilo City.

    As one of the volunteer counselors of our St. Clement’s Pastoral Care & Counseling Ministry, this year’s fiesta theme “Hands of Mary, Hands of Hope resonates well with me.

    Looking back on how I started my devotion to this blessed image, brought me to acknowledge the hands of Mary – the hands of God in the unfolding of the events in my life. As early as elementary days, we gather as a family to pray the Holy Rosary each night. During Wednesdays, my late mother would lead the novena prayer to Our Mother of Perpetual Help. Being a college student at Iloilo Normal School (now West Visayas State University – my current workplace), her strong devotion to the Blessed Mother became a solid foundation of our family’s spiritual life. She inspired & taught us to become closer to Jesus through Mama Mary. This, too, I know has been contributory to my decision to join the Redemptorists as Lay Vocation Promoter/Guidance Counselor for fifteen (15) years. I always behold Mama Mary’s loving care in those precious years which deepened & concritized my being a missionary partner of the Redemptorists. I have been growing & flourishing in all aspects of my life.

    After my missionary endeavors with the Redemptorists, I treaded a different path: counseling and teaching in the academe. I always recognize God’s hands in the scheme of things in my new life. Due to my immense love for Mama Mary & Jesus, I started to answer a calling to found the St. Clement’s Pastoral Care & Counseling Ministry together with my counselor-friends and two young Redemptorists, Fr. Jom & Fr. Deriz.

    Weeks before the fiesta of Our Mother of Perpetual Help, I had been crazy busy as the Associate Dean of our Graduate School. There were no appointments and referrals for counseling. I know Mama Mary has been taking good care of me during these challenging times. She allowed me to rest- practice Self-care on Sundays even if it’s my turn to be on duty at our Pastoral Care Office since there were no clients in need. When I was able to regain my strength and ready to serve again, a new client asked for a counseling appointment. So I have a reason to be available on that Sunday. In the course of our counseling session, I was teary-eyed and a deep sense of joy wrapped around me as I was listening to the narration of my client. In the road to recovery from a major setback in life, she recognized God’s and Mama Mary’s hands. One of the protective factors she pointed out was her parent’s prayerful and deep connectiom with Jesus/God.

    I know that our fiesta’s theme: “Mary’s hands, hands of hope – are words made true in the life of my client. Indeed, I am always hopeful that our clients in the ministry will recover & get healed.

    God through the intercession of Mama Mary has arranged the events which allowed me to join the Procession & Parish Night with another volunteer counselor. It is Providential that today is a holiday – thus we both were able attend the Fiesta Mass. We also shared the meal with the Redemptorist Community after a simple yet beautiful and inspiring mass. The preacher who was a young Redemptorist priest shared a very deep and moving life story of how Mama Mary played a crucial role in his journey as a Redemptorist priest – brought him closer to Jesus and answer the call to be of service to the needy and the most abandoned.

    These events inspired me to continue to serve as a Volunteer Counselor & Directress of Our St. Clement’s Pastoral Care & Counseling Ministry. Being a partner in the Redemptorist missions calls for a deeper commitment to love and serve the needy. With huge responsibilities and a plate full of tasks, I am not hesitant to devote my time during weekends to this ministry. This apostolate draws me to be closer to Jesus. Through the intercession of Mary – Her Hands, Hands of Hope- I am entrusting my professional life and our apostolate to Jesus through Mama Mary. With a deep faith in these two central figures in my spiritual life, I resolved to be an instrument of healing and recovery.

    Thus, let us be open to the promptings of the Holy Spirit so that God’s/Jesus’ and Mama Mary’s hands will be instrumental in our desire to be of service to humanity. VIVA MARIA!!! VIVA JESUS!!!