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Category: Fr. Jom Baring, CSsR

  • Building and Making Life-Giving Encounters

    Building and Making Life-Giving Encounters

    June 14, 2024 – Friday 10th Week in Ordinary Time

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/061424.cfm)

    Just like many of you, I was also excited to join and participate in this youth leadership training. This is not the first for me to have such kind of training, but my first in DOPIM. Some might have been surprised when they knew that a Youth Director joined and become a participant in this training. Harlyn, one of my groupmates, whom we fondly also call as Belinda, said, she could not believe that I was a priest. On the first night, she excitedly greeted us and exchanged conversation with us. But when she knew, she became extra respectful to me.

    I actually have my own reasons why I joined and become a participant just like you. And these reasons reveal the priorities that I have now as a youth minister and of what I want to impart to the Young Ministers in particular of the Prelature of Marawi. I canceled parish schedules and told my mother I couldn’t be home for her 60th Birthday last Tuesday because of a youth gathering that I have to attend – just to make way for this event. But more than these reasons, there are more important ones (three reasons) that I want to share with you all and not just for the Youth Ministers of the Prelature of Marawi.

    First, a youth leader is a youth minister. Let us remind ourselves that though we are leaders exercising authority, but our first vocation is to be a minister, in giving service for others so that we may journey together to bring each one closer to Christ. In this ministry, I remind myself that I am called to learn and unlearn with you and from you. It does not diminish the direction of a team or youth leader, or pastor or youth minister but it rather enhances the process of learning and unlearning things. This helps the ministry to slowly discover the gifts and talents of the young, affirm and correct one another so that we bring ourselves closer to Christ. This makes the ministry to be Christ-Centered.

    Second, as a youth minister, I am friend. This calls me that to be a friend I also need to develop a listening ear, to have an understanding heart, and to learn the art of a welcoming embrace. This is also the reason why I want to be identified as a friend rather than as an authority figure. Being a friend is a gift that I can offer to the young, a grace that I ask from the Lord so that my presence will be a non-threatening and non-intimidating presence. I am aware that I am a youth minister and not a police who checks youth activities and would just give a mouthful of curses when something wrong happens in the program. The gift of my presence means my ability to feel what others feel, to accompany and journey those who feel afraid and confused. And a presence that builds life-giving friendships (healthy relationships), not romantic relationships, neither a master-slave relationship with the youth nor a manager-staff relationship. This makes the ministry to be Human-Oriented.

    Third, as a youth director, I am a companion and a mentor by inculcating to you the value of building and creating relationships. We, indeed, need companions, friends and mentors who will assure our co-young people that they are not alone. Today, one of the biggest difficulties of the young is the tendency to be lonely and alone. Let our co-young people know and feel that they are not alone and that God and our community are much bigger than their problems and struggles. Each of us is called to be a companion and a mentor of the young and of one another so that we may be able to go out from our own comfort zones, accompanying the young to be more self-giving, reaching out to others with much love and understanding. Meaning, being a companion and a mentor calls me to journey with you so that we may be able to go out together, to meet and encounter more young people. This makes the ministry to be Mission-Directed.

    This is what we discover in the story of Prophet Elijah. God himself whom he discovered in a “tiny whispering sound,” meaning in a non-threatening and non-intimidating presence, ministered to him, became his friend, companion and mentor in his life as a prophet who was overwhelmed with fear, anxiety and doubts.

    We also remind ourselves that for us to become true, effective and compassionate young leaders and ministers, we also need to cut off anything that is unhealthy in our ministry to the young. This is how Jesus reminds us today in the Gospel, “cut off and throw away” anything that separates us from the grace of God and from one another.

    We may have the tendency to be controlling and manipulating in our ministry, stop and cut off those attitudes. We may be emotionally driven and highly sensitive of comments and suggestions from others, learn to be more objective and rational. We may be self-centered and image-conscious, then, cut them off and bring Jesus to the ministry rather than ourselves. We may also become merely activity-oriented and output-driven to the point that we overwork ourselves and our co-young people with so much programs, but forgetting how to talk with them personally and lovingly.

    Friends, my co-youth ministers, as leaders, we are called to build and make life-giving encounters with our co-young people in this transition of life of the young so that we may be able to encounter Christ in all things and in everything. And it is through these life-giving encounters, no matter how insignificant they can be to others, that we can make significant impact to a struggling young person, in the hope of a transformed-self according to God’s desire for us. Hinaut pa.

  • MOVEMENTS LOVING AND SHARING LIFE

    MOVEMENTS LOVING AND SHARING LIFE

    June 2, 2024 – Solemnity of the Most Holy Body and Blood of Christ

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/060224.cfm)

    The Barrio Fiesta we had last May 15 was truly moving and meaningful for me. The participation of every GKS (Gagmay’ng Kristohanong Simbahan) and Barrio Chapels and the presence of each one made so much impact for me. The spirit of sharing in that celebration no matter how simple the food we have shared, reminds us that we are a community.

    This is what we also find in many banquets that have happened in our friends and family celebrations. The gathering together of people and the sharing of gifts to one another brings us closer together.

    Yet, more than the Barrio Fiesta, the Eucharist that we now celebrate and partake is the very image of God’s invitation for us to share in his life where we are also invited the embrace and learn the movement of loving and sharing life.

    And so, on this Solemnity of the Most Holy Body and Blood of Christ, let us explore and discern the readings today and see how the Lord calls us to respond.

    The first reading from the Book of Exodus brought us back to people’s action of renewing the covenant they have with God. They recognized that they have transgressed against God. This acknowledgement of human sin, led them to ask pardon. The blood of the sacrificial animals symbolized the cleansing and renewal of the people’s heart.

    At the end of the reading, we were also reminded that it was God who made such covenant, meaning, it’s God’s initiative to be reconciled and be closer to the people. The response of the people who were being renewed must be understood then as an act of thanksgiving because the Lord remains merciful and faithful.

    This is reechoed in today’s Psalm, “To you O Lord, I will offer sacrifice of thanksgiving and I will call upon the name of the Lord.” This is certainly a song of praise and thanksgiving because of God’s goodness and faithfulness. Indeed, the “cup of salvation” is the assurance and promise of a blessed life.

    The Letter to the Hebrews gives more light to this. Christ as our High Priest offered the ultimate sacrifice. The sacrifice was not anymore of the blood of animals but his own blood shed on the cross. The oblation of the life of Christ paid off every transgression that we have done so that we will be able to share that blessed life with God, our eternal inheritance.

    This very act is again, God’s initiative. This is how God’s faithfulness and goodness are concretely shown to us as God’s beloved people. This tells us now that God never stops and never tires to bring us closer to God’s holy and loving presence. The Lord even initiated to offer his life for our sake. No matter how difficult it is to understand and illogical it may sound, but this is how love can move the heart of God.

    That is why, in the Gospel of Mark, he recounted how Jesus did that Last Supper. Jesus must have done it many times before this. Yet, this time it was made extra especial because of what he was about to offer for us.

    Jesus with his powerful words says to us, “This is my body; This is my blood of the new covenant.” The Lord shares to us now his very life. His body and his blood means his very life, the very life of God.

    And this is how we find it more interesting and meaningful. What Jesus offered to us was first being blessed, then, given thanks, then, broken and then shared. These are movements of loving and movements of sharing life to the fullest.

    This is what we also do now in this Eucharist, this Holy Mass. What we do is not merely rituals of the past. What we do is not just some sort of ancient actions. What we do is a celebration of life and continual sharing of love and life to us who are all invited by the Lord.

    And since it is common in our culture to brings something after the banquet, there are three things that I would like you to bring. These are your bring-house or take-aways.

    First, be nourished by this celebration. This nourishment is not just limited physically but in all aspects of our life. Remember, what is being shared to us is the very life of Jesus. Let this nourishment make us more aware of God’s presence in our life and in the lives of others. Let Jesus nourish us as well that our actions and words may become more like him.

    Second, move to love. God’s initiative to be closer to us is God’s movement of loving. Let us be always conscious that our actions and decisions in life be our ways of loving and not ways of destroying or hurting others.

    Third, move to share. Do not be afraid or have doubts to be truly generous of your time, presence, talents or resources. The Lord has given his life and blessings to us, may our actions and words be truly generous. Thus, share without “strings attached,” without expectations and without payment. May we always have the courage and the desire to share our life to our communities. Hinaut pa.

  • LISTEN TO BECOME A BLESSING 

    LISTEN TO BECOME A BLESSING 

    February 25, 2024 – Second Sunday of Lent

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/022524.cfm)

    There was once that I attended a meeting of a group of lay leaders in a parish. I was asked to sit down and listen. The meeting was called to resolve a conflict within them. As everyone sat down, it was very evident that the group was divided based on where they sat. Clearly, there was a division among the group. When the conversation began in order to hear both sides of the story, I also began to notice how many would speak at the same time. A certain group at the back would have their own conversation while a particular lay leader was telling the story.

    Others began to point their fingers and blame each other. Others showed on their facial expressions disdain and disrespect. The meeting hall sounded like a market place. Everyone was speaking and expressing their side. This attitude of the group only contributed to more tensions and conflicts.

    I did not wonder at all, why conflicts would easily arose in such group. People never really listen and so people cannot understand. For this Second Sunday of Lent, it is in this way that I would like to offer my reflections based on our readings and God’s invitations for us, to listen well.

    In any conversations or whenever a person speaks, teaches, tells a story or explains, we who are the listeners may actually show “bad listening practices[1].” This is done intently by us or  unaware that we are doing it already. Hence, I would like first to identify these bad listening practices so that we may become aware of them and challenge ourselves to become an effective listener.

    Types of Bad Listening Practices

    First is INTERRUPTING especially when it is done to dominate and overpower the one who is speaking. Though not all interruptions are bad, however, when our interruption causes confusion, distorted information and competition, then we lose real conversation and not able to listen well.

    Second is DISTORTED LISTENING. This happens in many ways like having a wrong story, or lacking information to a story that we communicate. Sometimes  also the real story has been added with other misleading information. This is the cause of more tensions and conflicts because when we begin to communicate we pass a distorted story and distorted information. This is actually common in many communities and even organizations. This breeds gossips, malicious attacks against another and defamation. People who listen to distorted stories tend to believe it and at times even add more distortions to it.

    Third is EAVESDROPPING that involves intentional and a planned attempt to secretly listen to a conversation. Like for example, we saw some people talking in a corner then we pretend to do something until we come near them in order to listen to what they are talking about. This is indeed a bad practice because this is a violation of a person’s privacy. Moreover, people who eavesdrop tend to get wrongful information as well. This also creates, when caught, damage to inter-personal relationships and causes hurtful feelings.

    Fourth is AGGRESSIVE LISTENING. A person really listen well, however, it has the intention to ambush and attack the one who is speaking. It criticizes another person’s ideas, personalities or the characteristics of the person. This usually happens to people who are already very familiar with like couples, friends and those who have been together in a group or organization for a very long time.

    Fifth is NARCISSISTIC LISTENING. It is a self-absorbed and self-centered form of listening. We pretend to listen to a person sharing a story, however, we interrupt and bring the conversation back to ourselves. It never respects and acknowledges the feelings of the one speaking, but rather, it tries to divert the attention towards ourselves. Like for example, “Your story is nothing compared to mine,” or “if I were you, I would do like this,” or “That remind me of the time when I was (at your age/the one in charge/there in your place…)

    Sixth is PSEUDO-LISTENING. You must be familiar with a family member or a friend or someone you know who repeats a story hundreds of times and you have already memorized it. In order not to offend the person, we pretend to listen well but not. We may nod our head or even complete the sentence. This “act” is pseudo-listening. Yet, when it becomes our habit this bad listening creates negative and even painful consequences in our relationships because we do not listen well at all.

    So, what kind of bad listening behavior do we have? We may have one or more bad listening practices actually. But be aware that having such bad listening practices in our relationships do not help us and do not help the community. What God wants of us is to listen well so that we may respond well.

    Biblical Significance

    Take for example the story of Abraham. Despite the risk that he had to take by sacrificing his own son, Isaac, Abraham listened to the Lord God and responded to him. As a father, Abraham must have a heavy heart. Yet, he listened well. That was done, as the Book of Genesis told us, to test Abraham’s capacity to trust in God. Indeed, God saw the faithful heart of Abraham and spared Isaac.

    By this capacity to listen well to God’s command, Abraham became a blessing to many. By listening well to God, Abraham became the father of faith to us.

    This is the very invitation that we find in the Gospel of Mark today. The voice of the Father in Heaven tells us, “This is my beloved son. Listen to him!”

    However, notice also how Peter responded to this mystery. He interrupted and suggested to Jesus to stay there, to build three tents.

    The Gospel told us that, “Peter hardly knew what to say because they were so terrified.” Yet, at that very moment what matters most was not to say anything, but TO LISTEN.

    To speak and to interrupt was actually an temptation. Not to fully listen to what was happening would deprive Peter to understand fully the mystery that was being unfolded before them.

    Hence, the invitation was “LISTEN TO HIM!” – to listen to Jesus, to his way of life, his challenges for us, to his heart and mind. This way of life of Jesus entails struggles, pain, sacrifices, suffering, and even death. Yet, it does not end there. There is also the glorious resurrection. This is the meaning why the cloths and face of Jesus was transfigured.

    Jesus’ capacity to listen well to the Father and to respond well to the Father brings transformation. Again, this was how Abraham was transformed into a blessing to all.

    For all of us today, listen well, listen to Jesus! Listen to Jesus’ heart and mind! Do not be tempted to listen to Satan’s deception and lies. Do not listen to distorted stories! Do not listen to gossips and malicious attacks against your neighbor that intend to bring division and pain! Because when we do that, we become children of the father of lies and evil.

    Listen to Jesus! Listen to the Gospel! – that we may be transformed and become a blessing to our families, friends and communities and not become a curse to many.

    As an assignment, make it your habit to read the Bible, reflect on it and pray over it that we may able to listen to Jesus. Hinaut pa!

    [1] According to https://open.lib.umn.edu/communication/chapter/5-2-barriers-to-effective-listening/

  • PRAY. FAST. GIVE.      

    PRAY. FAST. GIVE.      

    February 14, 2024 – Ash Wednesday

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/021424.cfm)

    The Church begins today the first day of the Season of Lent. Changes in our liturgical celebrations are also applied. We now use the color purple that symbolizes sorrow for our sins and repentance. Our music becomes mellow and subdued. We don’t sing now the Gloria or the Alleluia as Gospel Acclamation. Even colorful flowers are removed from the sanctuary.

    These changes in our liturgy direct all of us to look deeper into our lives, the kind of heart we have so that we may discover our own sinfulness and begin to repent. Hence, on this Ash Wednesday, the ashes that will be imparted on our forehead reminds of these two important messages. First, “to repent and believe in the Gospel.” The Lord in his mercy and compassion calls us now to come to him. God invites us not to be afraid anymore because the Lord desires to embrace us and heal us.

    Second, “we are from dust and to dust we shall return.” As the Lord God made out of clay and formed the man, he also breathe the spirit into his nostrils. The was how life was given. This reminds us of the frailty of human life and the certainty of our death, yet of the beauty as well because we are one with the earth and God is our creator.

    These reminders bring us now to enter fully into the Season of Lent. And welcoming this season calls us also to observe this 40-day journey faithfully and with open heart. The Church invites us now, as the Gospel of Matthew told us of the three ancient spiritual practices to guide us towards a renewed self and a transformed heart.

    The first of this, is PRAYER. Lent calls us to pray more and to pray better. To give more importance to prayer and to pray daily. Now, to pray is not limited with our memorized prayers or those that we have become so familiar with like the recitation of the Rosary or our Novenas. To pray, rather, is to be more aware of God’s presence among us. To pray is to be constantly conscious of God’s spirit working in our lives. That is why, it is an invitation for us to find ourselves praying even while at work, while traveling, while eating, while encountering and meeting people.

    Second, FASTING AND ABSTINENCE. To deprive ourselves from eating a full meal is an ancient spiritual practices that is also common in other religions. Fasting allows us to not just make us aware of our physical hunger but also our other different forms of hungers. Our hunger for love, for concern, for justice, for peace and to work for it. This makes us to have a focus on what lies within our heart. Abstinence, is to refrain ourselves from enjoying those things that we like and we love. By law, the Church only requires 18 years old up to 60 years old to fast on this Ash Wednesday and on Good Friday except for the sick. And starting at 14 years old and above, we are required by law to abstain from eating meat on this day and in all Fridays of lent and on Good Friday. This leads us to make ourselves free from anything that may prevent us being close to God and others.

    Third is to GIVE ALMS. To be charitable or to express our generosity is an important component of this Season. Our good works or our kindness is not limited to few coins that we give to the poor, but by making actions life-giving for others. Through our generosity others may find hope and blessing.

    As we begin the Season of Lent, may this 40-day spiritual journey may truly become a time of grace, of renewal and transformation of our hearts. Hinaut pa.

  • THE LEPROSY OF THE HEART

    THE LEPROSY OF THE HEART

    February 11, 2024 – 6th Sunday in Ordinary Time

    Click here for the readings (https://bible.usccb.org/bible/readings/021124.cfm)

    Leprosy is such a terrible and horrible illness in Biblical times. People would not dare touching a person who was stricken with leprosy. Because of the foul smell from the rotten flesh of a leper, one would ran away to avoid such person. The illness was gruesome that people in biblical times would separate lepers from the community. There was no cure of such illness except a miracle from heaven. Even in the past recent past, colonies of lepers were founded in order to contain them in one place.

    In fact, I have been into one of the colonies of lepers here in our country. During my college days in the seminary in Cebu, every weekend we would spend time with the lepers in their ward and spend a night in the community.

    Today, leprosy is curable. Lepers would not suffer the same alienation and discrimination as before anymore. The sanitariums especially build for this purpose were now converted to General Hospitals. This means that leprosy is no longer a threat to the population.

    However, what remained terrible and horrible, is not anymore the leprosy of the body, but the leprosy of the heart, that continually discriminates and condemns people, that plants hatred and fosters violence, that perpetrates abuse and corruption, that is unmoved and indifferent towards the sufferings of others, and that advances personal interest at the expense of the weak and the poor.

    Hence, this is what I want to share and expound on this Sunday based on the readings that have been revealed to us. Let us revisit again the readings and discover how the Lord invites us to make our hearts clean and free from the leprosy of the heart.

    In the Book of Leviticus, an instruction was given on how to treat a person with leprosy. And since, leprosy is believed to be also a form of punishment and condemnation, a person shall declare himself, “Unclean! “Unclean!” This will warn the people nearby that there was a leprous in the midst and so they can be away.

    This also means that leper cannot stay with his/her family and friends. They were designated outside the camp, outside the affairs of the community. They were removed from the life of the community. One could imagine then, the loneliness and condemnation they received from the community. No one will touch them not even talk to them.

    There was actually a medical explanation why they were separated from the community, and that was to protect the public from such medical threat. There was no cure for such illness before. However, such treatment fostered the culture of indifference, discrimination and hostility against the sick.

    These are signs of a more terrible illness, the leprosy of the heart. These culture prevailed up to the time Jesus. As the Lord preached the Kingdom of God manifested in his many miracles, Jesus also witnessed the leprosy of the heart of the people. Those who claimed to be upright, religious and clean, where the ones who treated the lepers in the worst manner. This kind of leprosy rejects the presence of God. This kind of heart knows no mercy.

    The indifference of the public and the lack of concern promoted a culture that pushes away the lepers to the fringes of the society. They were on their own, unaided and condemned to misery. These were the reasons why any Jew would not dare talking, being near or worst touching a leper. They were afraid that they might be contaminated and become unclean like the lepers.

    However, there was a turn of events, when Jesus was in their midst. Jesus, who healed many sick people, forgave the sinners, became a glimmer of hope of the lepers. Indeed, through Jesus, lepers found hope, healing and life. In the Gospel of Mark, Jesus showed this hope, healing and life through his four life-giving movements.

    First, Jesus was moved with pity. The heart of Jesus belongs to them. His is only filled with love and compassion. No discrimination. No judgment.

    Second, Jesus stretched out his hand. An action that moves out to meet the other, to encounter a person.

    Third, Jesus touched him. Jesus did what was unimaginable and what was impossible, not to impress people but to express love.

    And fourth, Jesus said, “I will do it. Be made clean!” This is what love and compassion can do. After that, the leper was immediately cleaned and healed. He was given hope, healing and a new life. The person was liberated.

    This can only come from a heart that knows how to be moved with pity, love and compassion, a heart that knows how to love and how to bring healing and life.

    However, a heart that is stricken with leprosy, it stays distant from the Lord, rejecting love and compassion. This heart is truly lonely and sad, bitter and sick.

    That is why, let us listen to what Paul reminded us in his first letter to the Corinthians, he said, “Be imitators of me, as I am of Christ.” Let us strive that our heart may become like Jesus, that our heart will be free from the leprosy of indifference and hatred, of violence and bitterness.

    Thus, for this Sunday, let us pray together and ask the Lord to bless our hearts, to clean and heal our hearts. I want you now to place your right hand to your heart, close your eyes and repeat after me.

    “Lord Jesus fill my heart today with love and compassion. Make my heart gentle and humble. Free and heal my heart from the disease of indifference, violence, hatred, anger, resentment and bitterness.

    Renew my heart today and make it like yours that I may be moved with compassion when I am confronted with those in need, that my heart may have the courage to take action and initiative to show kindness and generosity without asking anything in return.

    Make my heart like yours, that I may also give hope and bring healing and life. Amen.”

    Hinaut pa.