BEING A TRUE FRIEND

May 23, 2025 – Friday of the Fifth Week of Easter

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How many friends or followers do you have in your Facebook account? Or in your other social media accounts? Those of us who have Facebook account may have hundreds of friends. Others even have a thousand or more friends. But, do we really consider every person there as our “friend?” Do each of them share closeness and intimacy with us?

Today, the word “friend” may have other meanings. Our friends in our social media accounts are actually our contacts or connections. However, having those “friends” do not mean that we have intimate and personal relationships with each of them. Perhaps, to some people we really have but most, we don’t, because they are our acquaintances at school, at work, at events or friends of friends.

It may seem common today to have such tendency to accumulate friends, to make and have friends. It is our desire to be socially connected with others through the internet. We too want to be identified by people to whom we make contacts. Yet, we could become more conscious of having friends and affiliate ourselves with others rather than “being a friend.”

We realize that to have friends and to be a friend have different natures and intentions. To have friends has the tendency to be self-absorbed, self-conscious and selfish because this attitude looks inward. On the other hand, to be a friend is an action that comes with commitment. Thus, it is self-giving and self-sacrificing. This attitude looks outward and is other-oriented.

This is the very kind of friendship that Jesus talks about in the Gospel. Jesus calls each of us to be his friends. The friendship that Jesus offers is self-giving and self-sacrificing. Jesus commits himself to us as his friends. His commitment is summed up in his love for you and for me by offering himself on the cross on our behalf.

Hence, the friendship of Jesus is not about using us or so that he may get something from us. His friendship is not about feeding his ego. Rather, his friendship with us is about giving oneself. Through this friendship he calls us as his friends, not slaves, not mere acquaintances or contacts.

This is Jesus’ invitation to each of us now, that you and me will grow in that friendship with Him. We are called to develop our personal and intimate friendship with Jesus through our constant “chats” expressed through our prayers and this Eucharist. Friendship grows when we come to know each other both our pains and joys, failures and hopes, frustrations and growth.

And because this friendship is not inward but rather an outward relationship, our friendship with Jesus should inspire us “to become a true friend.”

Yes, we, who are friends of Jesus are called to be a friend of everyone. We too are invited to express the same love that we have received from Jesus by sharing ourselves and presence. We are called to “shout out” the goodness that the Lord has revealed to us. We are invited “to post what’s on our mind and heart” so that others may know and grow  in their friendship with Jesus.

So, friends of Jesus – go and be a true friend to others! Hinaut pa.