WHEN RESENTMENT CONSUMES US

February 17, 2025 – Monday of the Sixth Week in Ordinary Time

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A person who becomes resentful in a relationship or work or in any other things, can easily nurture emotions like anger, frustrations and disappointments. When these negative emotions are being built up from within and being “nested,” the more the heart becomes resentful and even violent.

Yet, our resentful heart does not acknowledge the wrong or the failure in us but only blames our frustrations and anger towards others. We could easily hold grudges against others; having a passive-aggressive expressions of anger in the forms of sarcasm, overly critical and inaction or indifference. And these are also forms of bitterness of the heart that slowly consumes and destroys our relationships.

This is what happened in the story we have today in the Book of Genesis. Cain, the first born of Adam and Eve, grew resentful towards God and jealous towards his younger brother, Abel.

Cain must have felt that God was unfair towards him because the Lord only accepted the offerings of Abel and his was rejected. Abel’s attitude was different from his brother. Abel offered the best and what was due to God. Abel offered those gifts as an act of thanksgiving. He offered his best gifts out of joy and gratitude.

However, Cain only gave his offerings passively and complacently. It was rejected not because of the value of his gifts, but the attitude of his heart. Cain’s offering was not an act of devotion and gratitude to the Lord, and thus, his offering was rejected. His ungrateful heart has become seedbed of his resentment. He felt wronged by God and seen Abel as his competitor.

This resentment grew more in his heart. The Lord God warned Cain of this, “sin is a demon lurking at the door; his urge is toward you…” This was how Cain allowed his resentment to consume him until he became vicious and violent. And so Cain, with a deceptive heart brought his brother Abel away and killed him.

And worst, when God asked the whereabouts of Abel, Cain responded again with a resentful heart, “I do not know. Am I my brother’s keeper?” This only confirms his guilt and the blood in his hands. This was such a horrifying and sad story between brothers.

This resentful heart also reflected in today’s Gospel among the Pharisees who demanded signs from Jesus. It was the hardness of their hearts and vicious thoughts that made Jesus to “sigh from the depth of his spirit.” They asked for a sign, yet, they cannot recognize the greatest sign in front of them, already talking with them.

However, despite this tendency in us, the Lord gives us a chance. God sees hope in us as well. This was the reason why God never condemned Cain to death, not to condone his actions, but give a chance for Cain to repent, to be renewed and to be freed from the evil in his heart.

Indeed, we also ask the grace that our heart may not become resentful and bitter but will rather be grateful and contented. Having such attitude in our heart, may we always be mindful of God’s revelations and His presence. Hinaut pa.